If you’re like most people, you’re constantly growing and changing, whether you mean to or not. For most of my life, I’ve been consciously trying to grow and become my true self. I feel I’m nearer that now than I ever have been. In the process of doing all this work on myself, I’ve noticed something…each time I outgrow something I don’t like and grow into something I do like I find there’s more to do. Have you noticed that too?
Here’s why. With each layer of the growth onion we peel away, we find there’s a deeper, more profound person underneath who has yet more work to do to become even deeper and more profound. We will eventually get to the core of the growth onion – that’s where our soul, our true self lies.
As I’m sure you’ve experienced, each layer of the growth onion comes with tears…and other emotions too. Just as when we peel an onion in the kitchen, the tears are temporary and are a sign we’re doing something right, that we’re making progress. I’m not a fan of crying. I hate the snottiness, the headache and the wetness dripping down my cheeks. BUT every time I cry, it’s cathartic. I feel cleansed in some way. Tears are a necessary part of growth, just as they’re an inevitable part of peeling an onion.
My current onion peeling feels like multiple layers at once. Patience, self-compassion, healthy boundaries, communication in relationships. Whew! It’s a lot to work on. I think that since these issues are close to the center of my growth onion they’re tougher to peel and may take longer. It’s also because they’re so close to the onion’s center that they’re coming off in multiple layers. As the onion gets smaller, it’s harder and harder to hold and grab just one layer at a time.
I’m expecting a lot of tears with this peel. A lot of wishing it was done. A lot of wishing that I didn’t have to do the work. But in the end, I expect I’ll feel better than I ever have. In the end, it will all be worth it…even if I discover more layers to peel after this.
What layer of your growth onion are you on? How do you feel as you move from one layer to the next? If you’d like some guidance on your journey through the onion, consider an oracle card reading.